Forgiving others who have hurt you isn’t always easy. Especially if they never say they are sorry, do not ask for forgiveness, and actually are not sorry at all. We feel we are owed at least a “sorry”. I actually think we are not “owed” much at all. God sent Jesus to die on the cross for our sins, so we could be forgiven. Now, do you think we really have the right to hold on to our own forgiveness of others?
Jesus tells a parable in the Bible about a man who lends his servant 200 talents, and then when the servant cannot pay it back the master cancels the debt. The servant is so happy, but he then goes out and tracks down someone who owes him money. The amount is pennies compared to what he owed his master. The servant asks for his money back and when the other servant cannot pay him, he has him thrown in jail. The master finds out about this and has the first servant beaten and put into jail until he can pay back his debt in full. Ouch. This parable is to explain forgiveness. God gave us freedom from our debts (sins) when we could NEVER have paid Him back. In return, God calls us to give others freedom from their debts(sins) by way of forgiveness.
Now, you might thinking that by forgiving others you are saying that what they did is ok. That is not true at all. Forgiving someone else is letting go of the grudge and anger. Hanging on to past hurts is only hurting YOU. It’s not hurting the other person.
I know it is hard to forgive others, believe me. Sometimes people do things that hurt us so deeply that we cannot imagine forgiving them because we feel like we are then saying it was ok. Forgiveness is NOT saying it is ok. It also doesn’t mean you have to reconcile the relationship or hang out with this person again. You do not have to tell the person you forgive them if you do not want to. It can just be between you and God. You do not even have to forget what they did to you. You can remember it, stay away from them in the future, let them know it was wrong, and STILL forgive them. It is very freeing and that is why God calls us to forgive others. He never intended for us to carry any burdens and holding on to grudges and staying angry with other people is a burden only to ourselves.
Are there any people in your life that you need to forgive? You will not regret it. Forgiving others frees up your heart for more important things that God has planned for you!