…until it feels like the right thing. That is a phrase our pastor said about 3 years ago during a sermon. It has stuck with me, and I have referenced it and repeated it more times than I can count.
When you have a bad habit you are trying to break, or any other part of your life you know you need to change, this phrase can help. For instance, exercise. If you want to incorporate more exercise in your routine, but it’s difficult for you to do, say this phrase over and over to yourself. Make it your mantra.
Do the right thing, because it’s the right thing, until it FEELS like the right thing.
I promise it works. I’ve used it my own life and it has worked for me. There are a lot of things that are hard for us to do, and it doesn’t FEEL good to do them, or we just plain do not want to do them. However, we know we should do them. We just have to make the first step and DO THE HARD THING….because it’s the RIGHT thing. The more you do this, the more it will FEEL like the right thing.
What happens is, you are motivated to do it because you know it’s right. You keep pushing yourself to do it because you know it’s the right thing. After doing the right thing over and over for a few weeks, even months, it will begin to feel like the right thing.
One other phrase I heard once (I think in a movie) was “the hard thing and the right thing are usually the same thing”. That applies here too. Doing the right thing is usually the harder choice, but it is the one with the MUCH bigger rewards!
Let’s go back to the exercise example. If for a few months you exercise everyday because you know you should, you will begin to enjoy and need it as part of your day. It will become the new GOOD habit, replacing the old.
You can apply this to any bad habits (eating too much, drinking, smoking, gambling, etc), or any relationship issues you keep repeating (dating the wrong person and staying in destructive relationships) or even for good habits you want to start (daily Bible reading, setting up routines in your life, etc.). Whatever it is, its much easier to keep going by telling yourself you are doing the right thing, and knowing it will eventually FEEL like the right thing.
You will begin to miss your workout if you skip a few days, you will not want the bad greasy food you were unable to reist before, and you will see those bad relationships coming a mile away.
Just try it. Start today and take it one day at a time. Do the right thing because it’s what is best for you. Stop doing those things that FEEL good, but aren’t good for you! The more you do what is right, the better it will feel.
Remember to lean on God for strength during this time. The devil always tries his hardest to get to us when he knows we are trying to change. Be aware of that and be prayerful.
You can do it!